Sometimes, even though we have a niggling feeling that something is not right for us, we do it anyway. Why? In my past I have ignored my intuition because of my eternal optimism that things will be fine and lack of confidence in my decision making. For example, I commit to something, and then get a bad feeling. Instead of calling time I keep going – sure that I committed for a reason; there is something I can learn. Maybe as we get older we become more confident in our decision making? Foreseeing which possible outcomes are more likely as a result of our life experience. Also, as I become more committed to myself, my gifts, outlook, and potential, I can feel an actual intuitive presence guiding me. Authenticity, integrity, and honestly have become increasingly important to me. As my life has become more aligned with these values, so my sense of when they are and are not present is heightened. Now I see that these alarm bells are vital to my happiness. If I am not honouring my intuition I am not honouring my values. As I am more able to trust what is good and right for me, so I am able to respectfully decline and withdraw from what is not. The voice within us, the niggle, the shiver, the headache, the tension – can become the flutter of joy, the leap of the heart, the good night sleep, the sigh of relief.
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You know, that's a very good point about getting more confident in our decision-making ability as we get older. I've "encouraged" my intuition for decades, and so I believe that inner voice has become louder, and become part of my decision making, if that makes any sense. I'm by no means perfect, but it has certainly reduced the number of occasions when I was disappointed or hurt.M
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2/5/2013 12:49:08 am
Yes, I have also acted against the wisdom of my inner knowing in the past, e.g. pursuing a relationship I knew wouldn't last/be wrong, but perhaps there were other lessons to be learned, so I dismissed my intuition.
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I agree. I think as we get older, we can distinguish the 'voices' from each other - understand what is our thoughts going off on one because of fear and what is that inner whisper that's never wrong (even if sometimes it doesn't lead you where you think it will!) My top 3 ways of tapping into it are: Writing (morning pages), meditation and being in nature - all seem to amplify that inner whisper. xx
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I loved your article, very timely for me as I find myself assessing a particularly difficult relationship with an acquaintance. I also really loved reading the comments that have already been left. As I was reading your post I was thinking how much easier it is to hear my intuition these days. I figure it is because I am getting older and wiser, but I wonder if it has more to do with self confidence. I now have the self confidence to say no to people and situations that I don't want to be around. I have the self confidence to step up and into my power and determine my own destiny with clarity and integrity. Christiane hit the nail on the head with her parents analogy. I think that we don't always listen, or can't always hear because we are filled with fear and self-doubt. These are only dispelled with the arrival of self awareness and self-confidence. It's a slow process for most of us, but its part of life's rich tapestry.
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I couldn't agree more! I also find that how open I am to my intuition depends on how well I take care of myself. In times when I'm very busy or stressed and I don't make time to meditate or journal, the voice of my intuition quiets down to a barely audible whisper. But when I have a regular practice of consciously connecting with myself, my intuition comes through loud and clear. So many people believe that intuition is something you either have or you don't, but the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.
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7/5/2013 03:03:09 am
Thank you Charlotte, for reminding me to listen to my knowing, For alot of years I did not do so, because of fear of being wrong, allowing others to control me, and mistrusting myself. As Loes said, the more I look after myself and spend time 'with' myself, the stronger my inner voice is. Journaling is my favourite way of doing this.
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Charlotte,
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