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How to Experience True Love When you are Single

15/2/2013

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PictureIn my beautiful medow waiting for the right bee....
Give or take a false start of two, I have not had a ‘proper’ boyfriend for nearly 8 years. Am I bothered? No. It horrifies some people though.  I believe I still experience true love every day even though I am single.

Love is a sense of togetherness within our self or our spirit. When we know we belong
here and now, in our own skin, in our own lives. Sometimes we meet another person and a bond is made. If the minds meet in true synchronicity a loving relationship is created.

We can focus on the need for someone else to make us happy, afraid to be alone, of our own company. Or we can look within and provide ourselves with the support, acceptance and love that will make us truly happy. 

Love is everywhere, in every act and in every exchange of energy.  You can choose to see the loneliness, the evil and unjust, the hatred, war and famine; to see the lack; to see singledom as a failure to be frustrated by or pitied. 
 
Or you can see the love in every sanctuary offered to those in need, every act of fearless courage, of protection, charity and kindness; to see the abundance of love available for us all; to see singledom as an opportunity to grow. 
 
We are capable of sharing love with everyone whenever possible.  When we
do this we are never alone. 

See you next week
Charlotte

15 Comments
Arwen Lynch, Professional Joy Seeker link
16/2/2013 05:54:50 am

Very wise advice. I was signal for what seemed like an interminable time but slowly I began to realize that I liked my life. More importantly I fell in love with me. :D I am in a relationship now that is long distance (he lives 5 hours from me) so we don't see each other that often. But there is none of the crazy, roller coaster stuff. And I love that. :D

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Charlotte link
17/2/2013 07:52:07 am

Sounds perfect! I dont think I could cope with the drama now if I met someone like that! I hope it works out for you both.
Charlotte
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Dominee link
16/2/2013 06:06:02 am

I totally love this. I've been single for about five years and I've heard all of the same things. People find it hard to believe that I can find any sort of contentment, let alone joy, but at this point I'm so used to it and I never really feel like anything is missing.
I love this post!

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Charlotte link
17/2/2013 04:35:45 am

Dominee - I totally agree, I never feel like anything is missing!
Charlotte
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Crystal link
16/2/2013 05:34:42 pm

As I was reading this, I was wishing that it could reach the many people in early adulthood - just out of college, in college, some even in high school. There is such a strong and opposite message to what you have shared that, I think, leads people to serial monogamy, fear of being lonely, accepting a situation that is not ideal, not knowing one's self. This is a tonic! I'm truly happy for your choice to enjoy your life - man or not!

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Charlotte link
17/2/2013 02:33:22 am

Thank you Crystal. I guess as we get older we gain confidence to live how we want to. I would love this to reach more people, not sure how to go about it though! Any ideas would be appreciated, I will have a think this afternoon.
Thank you for giving me something to think about!
Charlotte
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Kay link
16/2/2013 08:08:24 pm

Love, love, love this. In a world that sometimes seems designed for couples, it can be hard to remember that love is within us and loving ourselves is even more fulfilling than being in a relationship.
Big hugs,
Kay

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charlotte link
17/2/2013 02:29:56 am

I agree Kay, there is so much social association with being some sort of failure if you are not part of a perfect couple. But what is perfect?! Perfect is where we are right now, partner or no partner.
Big hugs back!
Charlotte
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charlotte link
17/2/2013 02:30:47 am

I agree Kay, there is so much social association with being some sort of failure if you are not part of a perfect couple. But what is perfect?! Perfect is where we are right now, partner or no partner.
Big hugs back!
Charlotte
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Cara link
17/2/2013 05:27:30 am

I love this. I searched for my connection to Source through my relationships with others for many years before I finally grasped what you talk about in your blog. I am responsible for my own happiness.

I have been more lonely in a relationship that wasn't working for me than I ever was when I was single. Loneliness has less to do with my relationship to others and more to do with my relationship with myself.

I love what you said about love is about being comfortable being in your own skin.

hugs
Cara

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Charlotte link
17/2/2013 09:02:20 am

I have totally been in that lonely relationship before! I complelty understand what you mean.
Hugs back!
Charlotte
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Charlotte link
17/2/2013 09:58:12 am

I have totally been in that lonely relationship before! I complelty understand what you mean.
Hugs back!
Charlotte
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Halina link
17/2/2013 01:45:17 pm

Although I'm in a relationship myself I could draw a lot from your beautiful words. Yes, there are so many ways to experience love every day. Unconditional self-love is probably the greatest gift we can give ourselves. ~ Sending you lots of love, Halina

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Coralie link
17/2/2013 03:31:30 pm

It is nice to have a kindred soul in this ... we don't need to be paired off to be complete and being single is a great time to grow into the real you and in turn become really ready for that amazing person that is out there somewhere for us. I am happy living life and letting fate play it's hand.

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Donna link
21/2/2013 08:28:15 am

It's so good to see this! I've been single for years, and sometimes even I start to wonder if there's something up with me...and I do something stupid like joining a dating site that I don't want to be on to wade through hundreds of people I have no intention of spending any of my precious time with! Then I realise, I'm really happy to be single...and I have been for years. If I meet someone I want to get in a relationship with, great. If not, cool, because being single isn't sad or lonely - it's joyous and love-filled...or can be. Great post lovely! xx

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