Why do people react to us in a harmful and aggressive way sometimes? When we have been bruised by another it can be easy to retaliate or withdraw. In these situations it is important to show compassion, without being walked over. Coming from a place of compassion allows us to maintain our peace. It stops us from shutting ourselves off to all of the love and life there is out there. Compassion is something I feel strongly about. I want to share with you something the Dalai Lama once said - “Compassion can be roughly defined in terms of a state of mind that is nonviolent, nonharming, and nonaggressive. It is a mental attitude based on the wish for others to be free of their suffering and is associated with a sense of commitment, responsibility, and respect towards others…..perhaps one could begin with the wish that oneself be free of suffering and then take that natural feeling towards oneself and cultivate it, enhance it, and extend it out to include and embrace others.” If everyone cultivated compassion within themselves there would be less harmful and aggressive behaviour. But, we cannot change other people. We can cultivate compassion within ourselves though, and then when these things inevitably happen, we can cope better. ![]() We can extend our compassion towards someone else who is clearly in negative space, and move on to extend our love and compassion to others. With Love and Light Charlotte Dalai Lama quotes are taken from The Art Of Happiness.
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16/5/2013 08:13:42 pm
HI Charlotte, This is my first time to your blog and am appreciating this thoughtful post on compassion. Admittedly it riled me up because I had a similar situation happen a few weeks ago--apparently I triggered something in someone I was interacting with professionally and he went OFF. Blatantly verbal (it was all through email) abuse.
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I love that you shared your vulnerability... the cycle of feelings that you went through. It is never easy when you go through something that can feel so personal of an attack, even when it is not. It is so easy to feel alone in those places, and you have demonstrated a good healthy way of managing those feelings. I am surprised by the story, but am glad you chose to withdraw and get a refund! No sense in staying in a place that does not feel good to you on any level!
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