I love reading “6 Ways to Meditate”, “13 steps to inner freedom”, “7 ways to
succeed in business”. I have picked up some awesome tips from blogs and articles
But usually I want to offer you one key tip. I don’t want to give you a list of stuff because I believe that focused action creates change. With clarity we can work with the root of obstacles. Quick fixes get us on the way, but they don’t always see us through.
When I share a tip with you, it’s because it’s the key thing I learnt, usually amongst a heap of other stuff that was not as effective. Because true life affirming change is a
long term commitment. You need to know the tools you are picking up will see you through.
And here is the little known secret that no one ever really wants to talk about. Putting in the work is the only real solution. Full Stop.
You can have 50 great ways to de-clutter your life. But what happens when you do them all? If you have not fixed your deep subconscious drive to hoard you will simply re-clutter your life all over again.
Sow new seeds – don’t trim the old bush.
Like a seedling we can nurture our dreams into beautiful abundant success. This sounds like hard work. So ask yourself – are you committed to your dreams? It is your choice to be
Miserable = hardwork, tiring, lonely, joyless
Happy = focused effort, exhilarating, loving, joyful
Thank you for reading my blog today. Please don't give up on your dreams just because they have not happened over night. Think long term and KEEP GOING!
"Exhaustion and exasperation are frequently the handmaidens of legislative decision". Barber Conable
Every so often I get a bit frazzled. I can throw myself at things with complete commitment and then...frazzled, burnt-out Charlotte.
Often the build up to it is highly productive, and that is why we get caught up and push push push to get everything done. But it always ends up being exhausting.
When frazzled there is a sense of urgency for the need of relaxation and down time. An undertone
of stress and anxiety. A slight desperation for space, room to breathe and think freely. But when we go back to the same routine that is causing this build up, and draining our resources, burnout is only ever just around the corner.
Now I can recognise the feeling I get when I need space and to lay off things a bit. I can take a step back because I know the alternative comes at too big a cost. I still organise some down time, but it is a totally different experience because the urgency is not there.
How did I get this insight? What was my magic wand? Take a look at my video blog where I share my secret mantra with you!
Stress. I believe ‘shutting down’ from friends, loved ones, and my network had the biggest detrimental impact on how I used to cope with stress, and how quickly I was able to process and deal with the stress.
Whilst relationships had caused my stress, it seemed clear the best solution to my stress was to cultivate positive relationships with others.
I enforced a no meanies policy in my life. I don’t tolerate unkindness or negativity being enforced upon
me. I simply move on and don’t engage in it. I focus on positive relationships.
Why? What if changing your job is not so easy? What if you have to work with a
bully? Or live with someone really selfish? What if some of your friends and family don’t get you?
Sometimes we cannot simply walk away from people who bring stress to our door. However, there are many opportunities to meet new people, cultivate new relationships, and build meaningful and supportive relationships to counterbalance that stress.
Positive relationships allow us to connect with others on a very basic human level. We laugh, play, swap ideas, get advice, share stories, grow in confidence and trust, and open up with. All of these things reduce anxiety and stress. And then, when stress comes knocking again, we can fall back on our strong network knowing we are supported with love and kindness without judgement.
see you next week!
I am so excited about this blog post. Right now I am actually in the Alps skiing – something I couldn't do 3 years ago! I have pre-recorded this blog and set a timer on my website and social networking sites to release it today – something I didn't know how to do 6 months ago!
This is an anniversary holiday of sorts. 3 years ago I was on the verge of handing my notice in at a job which was offering me security and a future, but was negatively impacting the rest of my life on almost every level.
I was so confused and scared about leaving, even though I new in my heart it was the right thing for me. Taking that step terrified me. I desperately wanted, needed, to get away and have a break.
None of my friends were available to go away, just when I needed it most – something very strange happened ….
So my challenge for you to help you love your life now is this.
Write down at least three things that you are truly grateful for and spend a moment thinking about why you are grateful for them. Do this every day for a week and I am positive you will feel a whole lot better about your life.
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